Getting in front of a camera isn’t just about appearance—it’s about energy, mindset, and emotion. When you’re being photographed, especially for something as intimate and revealing as a personal brand shoot, the camera becomes a mirror.
A mirror of confidence—or insecurity. Of ease—or resistance.
Over the years, I’ve learned that the emotional preparation is just as important—if not more—than the wardrobe, lighting, or location. Here’s how to get into the right headspace before stepping in front of the camera…
Start With the Inner Space
Before every shoot, my process starts long before I even see the client. I begin my day with a meditation practice and a Sanskrit chant—something that helps me open up the creative channel in service of the universe and the person I’m shooting.
And I encourage my clients to do the same: to be intentional with their mornings, to ground themselves. Because the camera sees it all.
The Hidden Blocks You Didn’t Know Were There
One of the biggest emotional hurdles I see? The fear of being seen.
That fear often stems from deeper narratives—childhood trauma, bullying, internalized shame, or stories of unworthiness. When the lens is pointed at someone, it activates all those subconscious scripts:
- “What if I don’t look good?”
- “What if I look awkward?”
- “What if I’m judged?”
There’s also fear of success—of finally being witnessed as powerful, radiant, magnetic. That can be just as triggering.
All of this creates nervous system reactions. Clients freeze. They go stiff. They hide behind smiles or poses that feel safe.
So much of my job is helping people unfreeze.
Getting Out of the Head, Into the Body
The antidote to emotional blocks is embodiment.
If someone’s frozen, I get them moving. I play music. I ask them to dance. If they’re too tense to dance, I ask them to walk. Simple. Natural. Unstaged.
Movement rewires the nervous system. It pulls you out of the story and into sensation.
Sometimes I’ll have them shake it out—literally. Shake their hands, their legs, their jaw, flutter the lips. It’s a physiological reset that releases the tension.
Animals do it instinctively after a threat. Humans forget.
Everyone Takes Bad Photos—That’s Why We Take So Many
Here’s one thing I always tell my clients that instantly puts them at ease:
“Everyone takes bad photos. That’s why we shoot a lot—to get the good ones.”
This isn’t about perfection. It’s about flow. Loosening up gives us range, nuance, and surprise. It gives you permission to move. To try things. To fail. And then to find that one shot where everything clicks.
The goal isn’t to look perfect—it’s to feel true.
Rituals That Build Trust and Presence
My shoots aren’t rapid-fire. They’re relational.
Throughout the day, I hold space through intentional questions. I get clients talking. I learn their rhythm. I reflect back who they are.
It’s not a strict ritual, but a practiced way of being. Empathy and intuition are my lighting setups. Curiosity is my lens.
Client Story: Jenny’s Breakthrough
One of the most powerful transformations I’ve witnessed was with my friend Jenny Sansouci. She was in full-blown panic mode before our shoot.
Locked up. Rigid. Totally overwhelmed.
I tried every tool I had—movement, breath, laughter—and slowly, she began to soften. Bit by bit, the energy shifted. She came into her body. She started to glow.
By the end of the shoot, she was radiant. Free. The images we captured? Some of the best I’ve taken.
What I Advise Every Client
- Sleep well the night before. Your energy shows up on camera.
- Bring hydration and snacks. We move a lot—your body needs support.
- Bring the props and wardrobe we planned. Trust the creative direction.
- Trust the flow. You don’t need to nail every shot—we’re telling a story.
- Be curious. Be open. That’s the real magic.
One Thing I Wish Everyone Did Before a Shoot
Take 5 minutes. Close your eyes. Breathe.
Visualize your future self—the version of you this shoot is here to serve.
Then let that version step onto the set.
That’s what we’re capturing.
That’s who you’re becoming.
And that’s the power of showing up emotionally prepared.
LET'S CONSPIRE & CREATE
CULTIVATING YOUR VISUAL UNIQUENESS AND STREAMLINING YOUR BRAND'S EVOLUTION
Getting in front of a camera isn’t just about appearance—it’s about energy, mindset, and emotion. When you’re being photographed, especially for something as intimate and revealing as a personal brand shoot, the camera becomes a mirror.
A mirror of confidence—or insecurity. Of ease—or resistance.
Over the years, I’ve learned that the emotional preparation is just as important—if not more—than the wardrobe, lighting, or location. Here’s how to get into the right headspace before stepping in front of the camera…
Start With the Inner Space
Before every shoot, my process starts long before I even see the client. I begin my day with a meditation practice and a Sanskrit chant—something that helps me open up the creative channel in service of the universe and the person I’m shooting.
And I encourage my clients to do the same: to be intentional with their mornings, to ground themselves. Because the camera sees it all.
The Hidden Blocks You Didn’t Know Were There
One of the biggest emotional hurdles I see? The fear of being seen.
That fear often stems from deeper narratives—childhood trauma, bullying, internalized shame, or stories of unworthiness. When the lens is pointed at someone, it activates all those subconscious scripts:
- “What if I don’t look good?”
- “What if I look awkward?”
- “What if I’m judged?”
There’s also fear of success—of finally being witnessed as powerful, radiant, magnetic. That can be just as triggering.
All of this creates nervous system reactions. Clients freeze. They go stiff. They hide behind smiles or poses that feel safe.
So much of my job is helping people unfreeze.
Getting Out of the Head, Into the Body
The antidote to emotional blocks is embodiment.
If someone’s frozen, I get them moving. I play music. I ask them to dance. If they’re too tense to dance, I ask them to walk. Simple. Natural. Unstaged.
Movement rewires the nervous system. It pulls you out of the story and into sensation.
Sometimes I’ll have them shake it out—literally. Shake their hands, their legs, their jaw, flutter the lips. It’s a physiological reset that releases the tension.
Animals do it instinctively after a threat. Humans forget.
Everyone Takes Bad Photos—That’s Why We Take So Many
Here’s one thing I always tell my clients that instantly puts them at ease:
“Everyone takes bad photos. That’s why we shoot a lot—to get the good ones.”
This isn’t about perfection. It’s about flow. Loosening up gives us range, nuance, and surprise. It gives you permission to move. To try things. To fail. And then to find that one shot where everything clicks.
The goal isn’t to look perfect—it’s to feel true.
Rituals That Build Trust and Presence
My shoots aren’t rapid-fire. They’re relational.
Throughout the day, I hold space through intentional questions. I get clients talking. I learn their rhythm. I reflect back who they are.
It’s not a strict ritual, but a practiced way of being. Empathy and intuition are my lighting setups. Curiosity is my lens.
Client Story: Jenny’s Breakthrough
One of the most powerful transformations I’ve witnessed was with my friend Jenny Sansouci. She was in full-blown panic mode before our shoot.
Locked up. Rigid. Totally overwhelmed.
I tried every tool I had—movement, breath, laughter—and slowly, she began to soften. Bit by bit, the energy shifted. She came into her body. She started to glow.
By the end of the shoot, she was radiant. Free. The images we captured? Some of the best I’ve taken.
What I Advise Every Client
- Sleep well the night before. Your energy shows up on camera.
- Bring hydration and snacks. We move a lot—your body needs support.
- Bring the props and wardrobe we planned. Trust the creative direction.
- Trust the flow. You don’t need to nail every shot—we’re telling a story.
- Be curious. Be open. That’s the real magic.
One Thing I Wish Everyone Did Before a Shoot
Take 5 minutes. Close your eyes. Breathe.
Visualize your future self—the version of you this shoot is here to serve.
Then let that version step onto the set.
That’s what we’re capturing.
That’s who you’re becoming.
And that’s the power of showing up emotionally prepared.
9/26/25
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Getting in front of a camera isn’t just about appearance—it’s about energy, mindset, and emotion. When you’re being photographed, especially for something as intimate and revealing as a personal brand shoot, the camera becomes a mirror.
A mirror of confidence—or insecurity. Of ease—or resistance.
Over the years, I’ve learned that the emotional preparation is just as important—if not more—than the wardrobe, lighting, or location. Here’s how to get into the right headspace before stepping in front of the camera…
Start With the Inner Space
Before every shoot, my process starts long before I even see the client. I begin my day with a meditation practice and a Sanskrit chant—something that helps me open up the creative channel in service of the universe and the person I’m shooting.
And I encourage my clients to do the same: to be intentional with their mornings, to ground themselves. Because the camera sees it all.
The Hidden Blocks You Didn’t Know Were There
One of the biggest emotional hurdles I see? The fear of being seen.
That fear often stems from deeper narratives—childhood trauma, bullying, internalized shame, or stories of unworthiness. When the lens is pointed at someone, it activates all those subconscious scripts:
- “What if I don’t look good?”
- “What if I look awkward?”
- “What if I’m judged?”
There’s also fear of success—of finally being witnessed as powerful, radiant, magnetic. That can be just as triggering.
All of this creates nervous system reactions. Clients freeze. They go stiff. They hide behind smiles or poses that feel safe.
So much of my job is helping people unfreeze.
Getting Out of the Head, Into the Body
The antidote to emotional blocks is embodiment.
If someone’s frozen, I get them moving. I play music. I ask them to dance. If they’re too tense to dance, I ask them to walk. Simple. Natural. Unstaged.
Movement rewires the nervous system. It pulls you out of the story and into sensation.
Sometimes I’ll have them shake it out—literally. Shake their hands, their legs, their jaw, flutter the lips. It’s a physiological reset that releases the tension.
Animals do it instinctively after a threat. Humans forget.
Everyone Takes Bad Photos—That’s Why We Take So Many
Here’s one thing I always tell my clients that instantly puts them at ease:
“Everyone takes bad photos. That’s why we shoot a lot—to get the good ones.”
This isn’t about perfection. It’s about flow. Loosening up gives us range, nuance, and surprise. It gives you permission to move. To try things. To fail. And then to find that one shot where everything clicks.
The goal isn’t to look perfect—it’s to feel true.
Rituals That Build Trust and Presence
My shoots aren’t rapid-fire. They’re relational.
Throughout the day, I hold space through intentional questions. I get clients talking. I learn their rhythm. I reflect back who they are.
It’s not a strict ritual, but a practiced way of being. Empathy and intuition are my lighting setups. Curiosity is my lens.
Client Story: Jenny’s Breakthrough
One of the most powerful transformations I’ve witnessed was with my friend Jenny Sansouci. She was in full-blown panic mode before our shoot.
Locked up. Rigid. Totally overwhelmed.
I tried every tool I had—movement, breath, laughter—and slowly, she began to soften. Bit by bit, the energy shifted. She came into her body. She started to glow.
By the end of the shoot, she was radiant. Free. The images we captured? Some of the best I’ve taken.
What I Advise Every Client
- Sleep well the night before. Your energy shows up on camera.
- Bring hydration and snacks. We move a lot—your body needs support.
- Bring the props and wardrobe we planned. Trust the creative direction.
- Trust the flow. You don’t need to nail every shot—we’re telling a story.
- Be curious. Be open. That’s the real magic.
One Thing I Wish Everyone Did Before a Shoot
Take 5 minutes. Close your eyes. Breathe.
Visualize your future self—the version of you this shoot is here to serve.
Then let that version step onto the set.
That’s what we’re capturing.
That’s who you’re becoming.
And that’s the power of showing up emotionally prepared.
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I was born in a low middle class conservative religious family in the suburbs of Seattle. Art was and always has been my passion, and more than that a way of life. Starting as a graphic designer, I taught myself photography, built a commercial/editorial business shooting for the worlds biggest brands like Nike, Coca-Cola, Adidas and more. I've also had the opportunity to photograph the world's biggest celebrities like Justin Bieber, Usher, Jessica Alba and more. I've curated a lifestyle around creativity and have learned a lot along the way which I get to share here.
I was born in a low middle class conservative religious family in the suburbs of Seattle. Art was and always has been my passion, and more than that a way of life. Starting as a graphic designer, I taught myself photography, built a commercial/editorial business shooting for the worlds biggest brands like Nike, Coca-Cola, Adidas and more. I've also had the opportunity to photograph the world's biggest celebrities like Justin Bieber, Usher, Jessica Alba and more. I've curated a lifestyle around creativity and have learned a lot along the way which I get to share here.
